Q: I have a special relationship with my ex-mother-in-law. She's my best friend, and I am in love with her. I know she has feelings for me, too, but she doesn't want to admit it due to my son, her grandson. She knows I love her, and she has told me she loves me, too. Recently someone asked her if she was having an affair with me, and she told that person that it could never happen because I am her grandson's father and that would be wrong. But we have a special connection with each other. I just don't know what to do. Should I bury my feelings for her and try to move on, or should I wait and see what happens? -- George, 44
Dr. Susan: Bury those feelings, and quick! To try to act on them when one of you feels it would be wrong would only open up a world of trouble. She'd feel guilty and then you'd lose the friendship you both enjoy now. She's using her wise mind to prevent a disaster, while you're hoping to take advantage of physical feelings to stir things up. Let her calmer head prevail. Definitely move on and find yourself someone more appropriate to sleep with, and let your son have his grandma without confusing things.
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