4 Surprising Ways to Make Love Last
Does thinking of all that sappy sweet stuff you have to do in the name of love send you into a diabetic coma? Then you'll be happy to know that there are plenty of other (sugar free!) ways of making love last.
How Do I Love Thee? Let Me Count the Words
According to research at the University of Texas at Austin, writing about your relationship may make it last longer. In a study where two groups of participants were asked to either write about daily activities, or share their deepest thoughts and feelings about their relationship, 77 percent of group who wrote about their love lives were still together three months later. Only about half the people from the other group were so lucky.
Take 'Em Out to a Ballgame
According to University of Denver psychologist Dr. Howard Markman, cities with major league baseball teams have a lower divorce rate than those that do not. Cities who've introduced teams in the last decade have seen their divorce rates decline up to 30 percent. Fun and friendship is an important part of a healthy relationship, he says. "One way to get going is to head for your nearest ballpark."
Tune into the Telly
Who'd have thought that zoning out in front of the tube could help couples stay close? According to Dr. Gilda Carle, author of Don't Bet on the Prince, couples can learn a lot about each other by tuning into those reality dating shows. "They can examine motives, behaviors, reactions and laugh their heads off," she explains. "As they see how others behave, they can make their own relationship closer."
Follow the Rule of Five
Love longevity researcher and mathematician John Gottman sums it up simply in his book Why Marriages Succeed or Fail: couples who stay together are, well, nice to each other. Specifically, they are five times as nice as they are nasty. "Satisfied couples maintained a five-to-one ratio of positive to negative moments," he says, adding that all those other things you think are crucial to romantic bliss - your argument style, how you solve problems, your compatibility - are all less important than maintaining the five to one ratio.
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