Take a Risk and Get a Little Risqué
By Claire Aldrich
So you tell your friends the sex is great, and it is. But a little variety can keep it that way, right?
Just like beauty, variety is in the eye of the beholder. In other words, the vision of sexual variety is different depending on the person doing the viewing. So how can you know what will work with you and your sweetie?
Try something new, and see how it feels. If it feels good, keep going. If it doesn't, give it a rest.
The best ideas will come when you're comfortable with your lover and you can suggest something that will give you a new thrill. But of course there are some starting points to ignite those fiery ideas.
Tease and Titillate
Some couples find that even a hint of public displays of, ahem, affection will set the sparks flying. If your lover tells you she's not wearing anything under her sexy skirt while you're at the bar, you might find that you can't stop thinking about finding that out first-hand. Or if your guy whispers that he's going to take you as soon as you get into the car, you might be leaving the movie before the previews are over.
You might also slip your lover a sexy note while you're out at dinner with friends. In your own words, tell him exactly what you're going to do to him when you get home. He'll be thinking about you with a smile on his face all night--or as long as he can last. Your friends are bound to pick up on the sexual energy as well. Who knows? You might even set the mood for all the couples and be the heroine of the evening.
You can even find variety in the most familiar locations. When you get home, take a look at your furniture with fresh eyes. You might envision some new combinations you can try in your comfiest spots. Even your screened-in porch or your trampoline could pose interesting possibilities with a creative approach.
If you're finding that your moves are getting monotonous, then do some research. Buy a book or do some online explorations and you should be able to find strategies for spicing up your mutual maneuvers in the bedroom or out of it. Pictures or diagrams can help when you're not sure how you could possibly twist your body in that particular way.
The ultimate advice is simply to keep things fresh. If your first strategy flops, so to speak, then try, try again with something different. Even though you've got the desire to succeed, that doesn't mean that your spicy new maneuver will go smoothly the first time. Have a sense of humor and adventure, and your lover will appreciate the effort, and you!
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