Is he Afraid?

I was in a long term relationship with my boyfriend. We were together for seven years and when it ended, I thought that I would never fall in love again. Then, one Friday night last December, I was in a local chat room. Being bored and feeling a little adventurous, I decided I would meet this older man (I was 23 at the time and he 37). I figured what could it hurt? I would maybe make a new friend and it would be a great story to tell years down the road. He had sent me a picture and my initial thought was that he was too old for me. That night, we met. I brought my best friend with me and the funny thing was she was the one that thought he was drop dead gorgeous. Well, to make a very long story short, I will say as the night wore on, Frank and I hit it off. We talked over pizza and a beer, and then went to shoot pool with my friend. When Beth decided that it was time to leave, I knew I didn't want the night to end so early. So, I invited him in for a drink at my place. That's when we had our first kiss and I fell instantly in love. I can't explain it; it was magical, the minute he kissed me I knew I didn't want anyone else to kiss me ever again. Whenever I am in his arms, I know that it's where I belong. I thought I knew what being in love was like, but didn't realize until I met Frank because when I am with him, I am truly happy. In some strange way, I feel like it's not just one way either. Over the course of December and January, we saw a good amount of each other and the harder I tried not to fall for him, the harder I did. Now, my problem is this, I am in love with this man. Head over heels in love. I go to sleep thinking of him, I awake thinking of him, and my thoughts are never far from him. But, over the course of the last month, he has told me he doesn't see us going any further and that I am not the women for him. Though I see the way he looks at me and my friends do too. They say that he is afraid, maybe because of the 14 year age difference. I am not sure what to do. I don't want to lose him altogether, but I am afraid that I will always love him. I guess my question is, is it possible for him to see me differently or is it hopeless?

— Stephanie, 24

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