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Friending Her Ex
Q: So my girlfriend got a Facebook request from her ex-boyfriend the other day. I saw that it said they were now friends, so she obviously accepted his request. She knows how I feel about him, so when I confronted her about it, I didnít exactly keep my cool. She accused me of being controlling and paranoid. But I know about this guy. Long before me, she was dating this other guy, and thatís when she met THIS guy. He doesnít understand boundaries, and I can easily see him trying to scoop her up again. I donít like this one bit. Am I just being controlling and paranoid like she says? -Anthony, 30

Dr. Anna: Good relationships are built on mutual trust and respect. They key word here is mutual. You need to be able to trust that she is committed to you. She also needs to respect your feelings in the relationship. Many couples choose not to friend exís out of respect for their current relationship. Itís never appropriate to demand or control who your partner can or cannot see or communicate with. Both partners have a right to be friends with whomever they choose. Friending her ex is her choice. But if you feel you canít trust her, you might think hard about whether this is the best relationship for youóthat is your choice.

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NOTE: The information contained herein is provided for information purposes, and not intended as a substitute for advice or treatment that may or should be prescribed by your physician or recommended by your therapist.
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