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Q: My wife is such a softie when it comes to our 3-year-old daughter. She is very nurturing but a little too giving when it comes to raising our little one. By giving, I mean, she seems to give our daughter whatever she wants when she starts crying whereas I donít want to end up with a spoiled brat. I donít mind listening to her cry, but my wife accuses me of being ďinsensitiveĒ and complains that our daughter may begin to resent me. Personally I think thatís a bit harsh, considering Iím only doing this for my childís own good. What might you suggest? I think my wife is just being a little too overprotective.-Justin, 31

Dr. Anna: Boundaries and discipline are important parts of raising happy, healthy kids. But so are love and flexibility. The trick is finding a balance and keeping it fair and predictable. Talk with your wife about coming up with some clear rules consequences that are age appropriate for your daughter and work together to enforce these. Reasonable consequences for a three year old are things like temporarily losing a toy privilege or 3 minutes of time out.

Communicate your expectations clearly to your daughter, so that all three of you are on the same page. She is three, so she is going to need a lot of reminders, and that is perfectly normal. When she breaks a rule be sure to enforce the consequence, otherwise you do risk raising a kid with no boundaries and a sense of entitlement. But be sure to avoid punishment when the rule wasnít clearly broken. Punishing a child for a rule they did not know about or understand will lead to a lack of trust and resentment. Parenting is always a work in progress. Keep doing your best and working as a team, and youíll get through it in one piece.

 
 
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