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Gifts Not Acknowledged
Q: I am always sending my sister, brother-in-law, niece and nephew holiday gifts and birthday gifts. I try to send something nice and I usually feel like I overextend myself with purchases but I want them to receive a nice gift that they can use. Iíve noticed over the past couple of years, I never seem to get a thank you note from her or her children. Iím starting to resist sending any more gifts as it seems like they just expect the gift and donít appreciate it. How do I talk to my sister about this without rocking the boat too much? -Mike, 47

Dr. Anna: If you are sending gifts that arenít being appreciated or acknowledged, it may be time to re-think your actions. Gifts can be a way to express love and interest in a relationship. But they can also create a sense of obligation or lead to an imbalance in the relationship. Overextending yourself to give gifts seems to be leading to resentment on your part. If your gifts arenít being appreciated, itís probably time to find another way to express interest in your relationships with them. Offering to spend time together, sharing a meal, or doing small acts of kindness are other ways to express commitment to a relationship that may be a better fit in this case.

Anna Charbonneau, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist, stress management expert, and author. If you're feeling overwhelmed, stressed out, or struggling to make changes in your life, Anna can help. Read her complete bio!
Dr. Pamela Chollet has a Ph.D. in clinical psychology and Master degrees in educational psychology and fine arts. Her passion has been helping people face and get through those times when they feel trapped and unable to move forward. Read her complete bio!
Susan K. Perry, Ph.D., is a social psychologist, relationship expert, and bestselling and award-winning author. Her books include Loving in Flow: How the Happiest Couples Get and Stay That Way, and Kylie's Heel, a novel for adults. Read her complete bio!
NOTE: The information contained herein is provided for information purposes, and not intended as a substitute for advice or treatment that may or should be prescribed by your physician or recommended by your therapist.
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