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He Lied About His Age
 
Q: I recently started dating a guy, and he told me he was 40 and Iím 35. Things have been going really well, and I have been enjoying our relationship. Well, he came clean that heís really 46! He said he feels horrible since he likes me so much and never thought I would date him if he told me the truth. Now, three months in, I feel a little shocked. I donít want to lose the relationship but feel like this may be the beginning of lies that heís been telling me. I donít know if I can trust him. Is this a ďforgive and forgetĒ situation, or is this more serious than Iím thinking it is? I need perspective! -Dana, 35

Dr. Anna: I think youíre right to be concerned. If he is the type of person to lie about simple things like age, what else might he have lied about? Itís a reasonable question. I would tell him that his lying has shaken the trust you were building. Give him an opportunity to come clean about anything else he may have lied about or other important things about himself that heís not told you. Think carefully about his response; is he open, regretful, and apologetic? Does he understand that this is a big deal? If he is defensive or minimizes the effect this has had on you, that would be another big red flag. Ultimately, you have to decide what youíre comfortable doing. Healthy relationships are built on mutual trustóif you decide he isnít trustworthy, that will be a clear signal to end it sooner rather than later. If you decide that trust could be repaired, proceed with your eyes and ears open.

 
 
Anna Charbonneau, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist, stress management expert, and author. If you're feeling overwhelmed, stressed out, or struggling to make changes in your life, Anna can help. Read her complete bio!
 
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Susan K. Perry, Ph.D., is a social psychologist, relationship expert, and bestselling and award-winning author. Her books include Loving in Flow: How the Happiest Couples Get and Stay That Way, and Kylie's Heel, a novel for adults. Read her complete bio!
 
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