Make a Change and Cash In
When you're having trouble getting into a relationship that works for you, shake up your approach to dating. For that matter, shake up your approach to life.
You're heard the quote: Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.
Of course, finding a relationship that works for you hinges on finding a partner that meshes with you. So it's not necessarily something you're doing wrong that's leaving you lonely in the end.
Alter Your Routine
You definitely need to keep putting yourself out there and meeting new people if you want to meet the right person for you.
But you might need to tweak the way you put yourself out there. You also might need a change of direction in terms of where you put yourself out there. Why you put yourself out there is open to interpretation--guys often interpret the goal differently than girls do.
So, what could you beef up about how you present yourself? Are you dressing in a mostly polished and put-together way? Or do you look like you just rolled out of bed after a night of heavy partying? Take time with your grooming and clothes if you want to make a great impression.
If you've got the look down, where are you going to show it off? Do you hang out at the same clubs over and over? Worse yet, do you only go out to hang with friends at their houses? It's hard to shake up your routine if it's isolated and repetitive.
Before working your magic, think about why you're trying to approach or attract a partner. Do you want a friend and lover? Do you want someone who's only about the benefits, not the friendship? If you want one thing and you're ending up with another, then make a change.
Of course, change isn't easy. It's a lot easier to keep doing what you're doing and complaining about your lack of worthy partners.
It's harder to make yourself take a different approach. So take small steps. Try one thing different each time you go out, and see what happens. Wear something different. If you always prepare what to say in advance, blurt out the first thing that comes to your mind. If you talk a lot, try asking questions. If you're an avid listener but a shy talker, prepare some interesting topics and put your mouth in gear.
Naturally, you still need to be yourself if you're going to attract a partner who meshes with you. But try showing a different side of the real you and see if you find someone new who likes the view.
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