By Laura Snyder
Whether it's the way you always seem to fall for the strident commitment-phobes or find yourself reacting the same (wrong) way to your sweetie's actions, when it comes to love, some of us never seem to learn.
Does this sound like you?
You're a serial dater.
There's nothing wrong with getting back on the proverbial horse after you've been dumped, but you'll never learn the lessons of past loves if you don't take a deep breath after each breakup and figure out what went wrong. Hold a postmortem with your pals, and spend some of your new singlehood making sense of it all.
You're a blamer.
It takes two to ruin a relationship, so no matter how evil your ex is, there was something you did (even if it was simply putting up with it) that makes the end of your relationship at least a teeny, tiny bit your fault. If you ignore your own responsibility, you're that much more likely to do the same dumb thing again with your next sweetheart.
If only it were as easy as saying, "Okay, so I'm not going to date losers anymore." Once you've resolved to change your dating and relating ways, you need to get a little more critical in your observations of people. In other words, if it's losers you hope to avoid, you need to sharpen your loser-vision. No more "What was I thinking?" epiphanies on your three-month anniversary.
Your love really is blind.
Not only are you blind to his male-pattern baldness (good!) or her morning crabbiness (great!), your love has also seemingly blinded you to the fact that he's clearly not ever going to propose or she's obviously found someone else (bad, bad, bad). Don't hit the snooze button on your relationship radar just because you've settled down.
You don't know what you're looking for.
Your list of qualities for an ideal mate should be more specific than "doesn't totally suck." You're not likely to find what you're looking for if you don't know what you're looking for, after all. During that relationship downtime between mates, you need to get specific about what you're searching for.