By Laura Snyder
Ever notice how some guys seem to have all the luck picking up the ladies? It's not because they're better looking, smarter, or have thicker wallets. They just don't make these mistakes.
Pick Up Slip Up #1: Making a cold approach.
"Contrary to what most people think, the female almost always makes the first overture as to her interest and availability," says Dr. Galdino Pranzarone, a certified sexologist at Roanoke College in Salem, Va. You need to establish eye contact and give her a little smile first. If you can't get that, you're wasting your time (remember, she's already out there scoping the room; she'd have met your eyes if she wanted to). A little surveying will tell you which women are receptive to meeting someone.
Pick Up Slip Up #2: Hitting on her friends.
It seems so obvious, and yet guys do it all the time. Hitting on more than one woman in the same social circle is a total deal breaker. Not only do you look like a player, you're breaking the cardinal rule in impressing women: make her feel special. And she's not going to feel special if you're also trying to get her friend's phone number, now is she? No matter how hot her gal pals are, pick one woman and stick with her.
Pick Up Slip Up #3: Using a tired old line.
It takes a certain humor and sense of irony to pull off using a clichéd line and, unfortunately, not enough guys have it. Why risk looking like you're trying too hard or appearing inexperienced with women? Be simple and sincere. We hear the words, "Hi, I'm so-and-so" work really well...
Pick Up Slip Up #4: Limiting your locales.
In a bar or club, women have their armor up on arrival. Lots of times you'll get rejected just because you're one in a long line of guys trying to talk to her and she's got her defenses up. Instead, approach women in other places, where you stand a chance of pleasantly surprising her with your interest.
Pick Up Slip Up #5: Not knowing when to walk away.
Don't blow your chances in your desperation to close the deal. Even if it might just be the last time you see her on Earth, it's not a good time to push...so no getting physical, declaring your undying love (or undeniable lust), or even just being too insistent about arranging a date. Just say it was nice meeting her and that you'd like to see her again, or is it okay to call her. Or be really forward-thinking and just offer her your number. Then say goodnight.